While the matters of the heart can never be quantified (the heart wants what the heart wants) the increasing number of Latinas opting to marry gringos is a very interesting phenomenon that invites much speculation and pondering.
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Why do Latinas love gringos so much? I don’t believe that this is warrants a general answer. It’s not that Latinas love gringos just because they are gringos.
I think for the most part Latina women are drawn to Caucasian men because they represent the antithesis of Latino bravado. Not that all Latin men are so stereotypically haughty, but such characteristics have for better or worse become inexorably associated with Latin men.
Caucasian men seem to be more mild-mannered by and large, although there are always exceptions to the rule. Imagine this: you are a young Latina who grew up in a house of boisterous Latino men. You will more than likely react to this upbringing in one of two ways.
The first; you will seek out and value what there is to be admired about the confidence, strength and surety that exists in the characters of the Latino men you were raised by and grew up with.
The second response may be that you are repelled by such characteristics so that in your adult life, you will seek out the exact opposite in your significant other. If you are of the latter ilk, and you live in America, guess what, you are probably going to be attracted to and even marry a gringo!
Why Do Latinas Marry Gringos? Simple Cultural Differences
I have talked to many Latina women who have either dated or are married to Caucasian men and a common theme that comes up is the differing cultures.
At first glance, you would think that deep cultural differences would only serve to drive a wedge in a marriage but I have found quite the opposite when talking to these women.
In fact, they say that the differences in their cultures are what bring them closer together with their spouses. Those Latinas who have made it last with their gringo partners say that the prominent aspects of Latino and gringo characters actually complement each other.
For example, I know a Latina, a Chilean to be exact who (I will say this as gently as I can) has a tendency to make a small matter into a big one. She recognizes that about herself and says that her gringo husband is excellent at calming her down and getting her to see situations in a milder manner.
She swears that if she ended up with a Chilean man, tempers would go unchecked and there would be explosions of monumental proportions in their marriage.
Another reason that I have observed and may serve to explain why more Latinas are marrying gringos today than ever before is a more modern level of equality in the home.
Latino culture is such that the men are the bread-winners and don’t do housework and other domestic activities.
For better or worse, it seems that Latinas are shying away from this dynamic and gringos are much more likely to be amenable to this household role.
Successful Latinas may also be drawn to gringos who are more likely to be supportive of a career that could outshine their own as well.
All of this may be reading too deep into things that may not even be there and the answer could be much simpler in reality. After all, we live in America and a Latina growing up in America may value a partner who could be something of an usher to her in this American life.
It makes me happy to see Latina/Caucasian marriages work because I believe it can be a benefit for all parties involved. On a purely biological level, species thrive when they intermingle as it brings the favorable characteristics of both to the surface and phases out that which is detrimental. So it goes with Latina/Caucasian marriages.