Why Do Latinas Marry Gringos

While the matters of the heart can never be quantified (the heart wants what the heart wants) the increasing number of Latinas opting to marry gringos is a very interesting phenomenon that invites much speculation and pondering.

If you don’t know what a ‘gringo’ is, take this opportunity to educate yourself by reading this article

Why do Latinas love gringos so much?  I don’t believe that this is warrants a general answer.  It’s not that Latinas love gringos just because they are gringos.

I think for the most part Latina women are drawn to Caucasian men because they represent the antithesis of Latino bravado.  Not that all Latin men are so stereotypically haughty, but such characteristics have for better or worse become inexorably associated with Latin men.

Caucasian men seem to be more mild-mannered by and large, although there are always exceptions to the rule.  Imagine this: you are a young Latina who grew up in a house of boisterous Latino men.  You will more than likely react to this upbringing in one of two ways.

The first; you will seek out and value what there is to be admired about the confidence, strength and surety that exists in the characters of the Latino men you were raised by and grew up with.

The second response may be that you are repelled by such characteristics so that in your adult life, you will seek out the exact opposite in your significant other.  If you are of the latter ilk, and you live in America, guess what, you are probably going to be attracted to and even marry a gringo!

Why Do Latinas Marry Gringos?  Simple Cultural Differences

I have talked to many Latina women who have either dated or are married to Caucasian men and a common theme that comes up is the differing cultures.

At first glance, you would think that deep cultural differences would only serve to drive a wedge in a marriage but I have found quite the opposite when talking to these women.

In fact, they say that the differences in their cultures are what bring them closer together with their spouses.  Those Latinas who have made it last with their gringo partners say that the prominent aspects of Latino and gringo characters actually complement each other.

For example, I know a Latina, a Chilean to be exact who (I will say this as gently as I can) has a tendency to make a small matter into a big one.  She recognizes that about herself and says that her gringo husband is excellent at calming her down and getting her to see situations in a milder manner.

She swears that if she ended up with a Chilean man, tempers would go unchecked and there would be explosions of monumental proportions in their marriage.

Why Do Latinas Marry Gringos

Why Do Latinas Marry Gringos

Another reason that I have observed and may serve to explain why more Latinas are marrying gringos today than ever before is a more modern level of equality in the home.

Latino culture is such that the men are the bread-winners and don’t do housework and other domestic activities.

For better or worse, it seems that Latinas are shying away from this dynamic and gringos are much more likely to be amenable to this household role.

Successful Latinas may also be drawn to gringos who are more likely to be supportive of a career that could outshine their own as well.

All of this may be reading too deep into things that may not even be there and the answer could be much simpler in reality.  After all, we live in America and a Latina growing up in America may value a partner who could be something of an usher to her in this American life.

It makes me happy to see Latina/Caucasian marriages work because I believe it can be a benefit for all parties involved.  On a purely biological level, species thrive when they intermingle as it brings the favorable characteristics of both to the surface and phases out that which is detrimental.  So it goes with Latina/Caucasian marriages.

Mexican Wedding Cake Tradition

How to Use It With Style

Lets be honest…Nowadays, it can sometimes seem like time, distance, and the homogenizing influences of TV and pop culture are crowding out old traditions and making people forget their roots.

I personally feel there is no Latin tradition infused in many occasions when we celebrate baptisms, holidays and weddings.  I have attended many celebrations where there are no traces of Latin roots at all. This makes us forget where we come from, and somehow lose our valuable identity.

Fortunately, there are still plenty of ways to incorporate Mexican traditions into daily life. Start with the small things, and soon you and your family will find yourselves feeling more and more in touch with your roots and identity.

Having a Mexican wedding is one great way of resurrecting old family traditions.  If you’re marrying into a family that is not Mexican, it can also be a fun way of introducing your new relatives to your family’s heritage without making the entire celebration Mexican style.

Making the wedding even more fun may include Mexican wedding dress for the occasion, even if you don’t want to be married in a Catholic church.

Adding other touches like a Mexican menu and Mexican mariachi music for the reception can create a real memorable celebration. And of course everyone will be excited to try some Mexican wedding cake!

What Is Exactly a Mexican Wedding Cake?

Mexican Wedding Cake

Mexican Wedding Cake

Defining this wedding cake is actually a bit difficult, as there are really three types of dessert that typically fall into this category: The traditional Mexican wedding cookies, the typical Mexican wedding cake and the modern version of it.

Mexican Wedding Cookies

Also known as bizcochitos, these small round or crescent-shaped cookies are a common sight at weddings and other celebrations in Mexico.

They are similar to a shortbread cookie or a Russian teacake. Easy to prepare, basic Mexican wedding cookies contain just four ingredients: flour, butter, sugar, and ground nuts. You can also add salt and vanilla to taste.

Traditional Mexican Wedding Cake

The most traditional style of wedding cake in Mexico is a flat cake similar to an European fruitcake. This rich, dense cake is made with dried pineapple, coconut, almonds, and pecans, then soaked in rum.

Typically, Mexicans decorate this cake with religious symbols made of plain white frosting. If you want to make this traditional cake, try to get your hands on a bottle of Mexican vanilla. It really does have its own distinct flavor!

If you want to try another style of Hispanic wedding cake you can venture into having a bizcocho negro, which is fairly commun in South America especially Colombia.

Modern Mexican Wedding Cake

After the wedding ceremony, everyone heads to the reception to eat, drink, and dance to mariachi music.

Today, many Mexican brides abandon tradition altogether and choose a modern tiered wedding cake. This type of cake looks more fancy and elegant, and has many more options for colors and decoration.

An innovative way to maintain tradition along modern tiered wedding cake look is to use the traditional Mexican cake recipe to create a tiered one! Doing this has become a popular compromise between old and new in recent years.

If interested in making a traditional cake with panache, simply bake different sized layers of the traditional cake and bind them together with buttercream frosting or fondant icing. That is the secret I found by asking some modern Mexican brides.

Choose any of these options and your wedding dessert is sure to be a hit! Go the traditional route and you will also have the benefit of savoring a little bit of your heritage on your special day.

Mexican Wedding Traditions

Like many events in Latin America, weddings amongst Mexican Americans involve the whole family and a wealth of beautiful traditions.

According to Mexican wedding traditions, the couple’s godparents or padrinos serve as their mentors and sponsors before, during, and after the wedding.

The padrinos give advice and support, as well as financial assistance for the wedding ceremony and reception. They also play special roles in the ceremony, holding various symbolic objects until they are needed by the priest, the bride, or the groom.

The wedding ceremony takes place in a Catholic church, so naturally this affects the bride’s attire.

Out of respect to the church, she will often wear a lacy mantilla veil covering her head and a bolero style jacket if her Mexican wedding dress leaves her shoulders bare. This is changing rapidly, especially in weddinggs where the bride and groom are wee-to-do. Traditional attire for the groom is a Mexican shirt, specially made for the wedding, and linen pants.

Wedding Traditions Amongst Mexican Americans

Mexican Wedding

Mexican Wedding

Many religious symbols are woven into the ceremony. For example, the bride and groom kiss a cross to represent their promise to be faithful to one another.

They also receive gifts like a rosary, a Bible, a prayer book, and a special kneeling pillow for use during the wedding mass.

The Lasso Tradition in Hispanic Weddings

One of the most charming traditions is the lasso, this is particularly popular amongs Mexicans. In this tradition, an extra long rosary or cord is placed in a figure eight shape around the bride and groom as soon as they have said their vows.

Sometimes the lasso is even tied to their wrists. This symbolizes the unity of the new couple and the eternal ties of marriage.

This tradition is also common in South American countries like Colombia, although it is not essential. I have seen it in only in a couple of weddings I attended in the past where the bride or groom were not of Mexican heritage, instead, they had Hispanic heritage from a South American country.

13 Gold Coins Tradition Amongst
Mexican Americans

Another important Mexican tradition is the 13 gold coins. By presenting the bride with these coins, the groom symbolizes that he will care for her for the rest of her life. By accepting the coins, the bride acknowledges that she trusts her husband to do this.

The coins usually come in an elaborate tray or box and will become a family heirloom. These coins are called the arras. Today in many Hispanic countries the bride also presents the groom with coins, symbolizing they both share in the material goods.

On the other hand, some people say that the 13 coins represent Christ and the 12 apostles.

The Wedding Reception in Mexico

After the wedding ceremony, everyone heads to the reception to eat, drink, and dance to mariachi music.

The guests gather around the newlyweds in a heart shape and join hands. Then the couple has their first dance together as husband and wife.

Another fun part of the reception is the piñata, which the kids get to break open. I have never seen piñatas at any other Hispanic wedding receptions other than Mexican.

The centerpiece of the wedding reception is of course the food. Mexicans serve many traditional dishes, and what is “traditional” varies by the part of Mexico that the participants call home.

Typically, the menu includes rice, beans, mole, and sangria. When it comes to desert, the couple may choose Mexican wedding cookies which are similar to shortbread, a modern tiered wedding cake, or a traditional Mexican wedding cake.

The traditional cake is sort of like a fruitcake, made with dried pineapple, coconut, almonds, and pecans, and then soaked in rum. Other popular flavors for Mexican wedding cake include chocolate chile and the famous Hispanic dessert tres leches.

Hispanic Wedding Couple Piñata

A Mexican Wedding Tradition 

Did you know that Mexicans use a piñata in weddings called Hispanic wedding couple piñata?  That’s right, when you look at Hispanic culture, you’ll find that piñatas originated in Mexico with the arrival of the missionaries.

If you want to know more about its origins read my piñata history article.

The Mayans used to break piñatas as a game, and the Aztecs used to break piñatas as a way to celebrate the birthday of one of their gods.

In other old Hispanic communities, the breaking of a piñatas symbolized receiving blessings and favors from the gods.

With Hispanic wedding traditions, the Hispanic wedding couple pinata is a way to incorporate the old ways. It is tradition for Hispanics to throw a reception filled with Latin passion, dance, music and tasty food.

Hispanic wedding celebrations last throughout the night, and at the beginning of the fiesta de matrimonio or the boda, the breaking of the wedding couple piñata happens. This tradition is primarily Mexican.

Imagine you’re one of the guests at a traditional Mexican wedding. As you enter the reception area, you see a piñata in the center of the room or on a stage.

The guests gather around this paper mache figure filled with rice, small souvenirs, traditional sweets, and coins. The children are blindfolded and armed with sticks to hit the piñata to break it open.

When the Hispanic wedding couple piñata breaks and the goodies spill out, the dancing begins. The bride and groom dance first, a money dance follows and the rest of the night is devoted to dances like salsa, merengue, and romantic ballads.

In any kind of wedding celebration that’s true to the culture of Mexico in the olden days, the breaking of the piñata is a sign that celebration has begun.

The main shapes of the piñata are those representing the bride and groom. The second most traditional shape is a heart. Also, you can make your piñata into a shape of a wedding cake.

The couple can go with the traditional shapes for piñatas. The regular pot, the pineapple and the star shaped piñatas.

What do Mexicans use to fill their piñata? Confetti, money, grains of rice, coins, and traditional sweets. In many Hispanic weddings today, piñatas have two draw strings for the bride and the groom to hold. When they pull the strings down, it sets a pair of lovebirds free.

Hispanic Wedding Couple Piñata

Mexican Wedding Pinata
Picture by zackzachariah

No matter what kind of Hispanic wedding couple pinata you use and no matter what you fill it with, breaking open a Mexican piñata always means La fiesta comenzó or the party started!

Other Pinata Articles You May Be Interested In

How to Make a Piñata
Paper Mache Piñata
Piñata Ideas
Piñata History

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Mexican Wedding

mexican-wedding-1How Is a Mexican Wedding?

Like many events in Latin America, weddings amongst Mexican Americans involve the whole family and a wealth of beautiful traditions. There are many traditions that are a must to celebrate. Read the most important ones here and share this source with your friends.


Mexican Wedding Cake

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Interested in celebrating with a Mexican wedding cake? Your wedding doesn’t have to be an old style traditional wedding. Simply give a Latino touch by serving a Mexican wedding cake: a rich, dark and fruity cake that is so characteristic of Mexican weddings. Here I show you how to modernize the cake to have a fabulous touch of Hispanic tradition at your wedding!


Making the Best Mexican Wedding Cookie

What about making the best Mexican wedding cookie? You maybe asking yourself what recipe to follow, how should it be or should I even include it in my Hispanic wedding? Planning to have a piece of Hispanic tradition at your wedding by serving a Mexican wedding cookie can make your reception unforgettable. Keep reading to find out what could work best for you…


Hispanic Wedding Couple Piñata

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Did you know that Mexicans use a piñata in their weddings called Hispanic wedding couple piñata? That’s right, when you look at Hispanic culture, you’ll find that piñatas originated in Mexico with the arrival of the missionaries. To know more about this tradition keep reading here…


Bizcocho Negro Recipe

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This bizcocho recipe is a must for weddings, quinceaneras, Catholic First Communions, and very special occasions amongst Colombians and Hispanics. This cake takes a lot of work to do but don’t be discouraged because it is not complicated, instead it is labor intensive.

Bizcocho Recipe or Colombian Black Cake

The Easiest Way to Make the Best Bizcocho Negro

This bizcocho recipe is a must for weddings, quinceañeras, Catholic First Communions, and very special occasions amongst Colombians and Hispanics.

This cake takes a lot of work to do but don’t be discouraged because it is not complicated, instead it is labor intensive.

A very important ingredient is dulce quemado which is a bitter sauce we make with a sugar cane loaf or panela, that we completely cook with water until it burns and then we dilute it with a mix of warm wine.


If you are in Miami or New York you are able to get panela easily. I am not sure if it is easy to get it in California overall. I know in Brentwood and Hempstead in Long Island, NYC, and many towns in New Jersey you can buy panela in bodegas and in some specialty sections of supermarkets like C-Town.

To make your perfect black cake or bizcocho recipe make sure to start at least 2 weeks in advance because it requires you to moisten it with wine on a daily basis to get the perfect flavor. You can also use cognac or brandy in very small quantities with a brush or a spray bottle.

Bizcocho Recipe

Ingredients for 45 to 50 People

  1. 500 grams. or 1 lb. of butter
  2. 500 grams. or 1 lb. of sugar
  3. 650 grams. or 1.4 lb. of flour
  4. 100 grams. or 3.5 oz. of flour for the molds
  5. 12 eggs
  6. 1 Tb of baking powder
  7. 250 grams or 9 oz. of raisins
  8. 350 grams or 12 oz. of prunes
  9. 500 grams or 1 lb. figs in juice
  10. 500 grams or 1 lb. of crystallized fruit, what we call “desamargada.” Basic fruit in package comes with orange and lemon peels, and papaya.
  11. 250 grams or 9 oz. of Brazilian nuts
  12. The shredded peel of 2 green lemons
  13. 1 Tb of powdered cinnamon
  14. 1 Tsp powdered cloves
  15. 1 Tsp powdered nutmeg
  16. 1/2 Tsp of salt
  17. 1 bottle of red wine
  18. 1 cup of dulce quemado depending on how bitter it is. Start with 1/2 cup until desired color and taste.
  • Preparation

  1.  Soak the raisins in 1/2 cup of wine starting the night before. Remove the excess wine by gently pressing them. Use the leftover wine to smooth the mix later on. Place the drained raisins aside with the other chopped fruits.
  2. Chop the nuts in small pieces, being careful not to pulverize them. Mix them with the chopped fruits.
  3. Take the 650 grams of flour and pass them through the colander twice.
  4. In the mixer mix 1 Lb of butter and sugar until you make a smooth creamy mix.
  5. Start adding the eggs with small quantities of flour to the mix until you mix them all. Add small quantities of the left over vine from pressing the raisins.
  6. Add the dulce quemado starting with 1/2 cup, and adding more depending on how dark and bitter you want the cake to taste.
  7. Cover the fruits with 100 grams of flour to make sure the fruits don’t stick to each other or go to the bottom of the mold when you add them to the mix. Add the shredded lemon peel.
  8. Grease first and sprinkle flour well on 2 aluminum molds to avoid the cake being stuck to the molds. You can also use wax paper for baking. Cut it the size of the base.
  9. Spread the mix on the molds leaving about 1 inch from the top without any mix. In the cooking process the mix grows covering the empty space. Some mix may be left over, use a small mold. A 1/2 Lb cake ends up measuring about 11 inches in diameter by 3 inches in height.
  10. Preheat the oven at 350 Farenheit and bake the cakes for 1 and 1/2 hours. Make sure they are ready by sticking a tooth pick and seeing if it comes out clean.
  11. Take them out of the oven and pour on top of each 1 cup of wine. You can keep them in the molds until you are ready to consume them but make sure you spray wine every day on each to keep them moist. You can also spray them with cognac or brandy.

Tips About Making Your Bizcocho Recipe Perfect

  • The mix is thicker than a normal cake mix and less than a bread mix.
  • If the mix is too thick add more wine or orange juice.
  • Don’t use glass molds because the bizcocho negro tends to burn in these glass molds.
  • Make it in advance and simply keep spraying it or brushing it with wine, brandy or cognac every day.

How to Keep Your Bizcocho Negro Intact for a Year in the Freezer

  • This article was totally inspired by one of our readers, Thais Fernandez who wrote asking: “estoy interesada en saber como se hace el pudin negro Colombiano y como se hace para conservarlo despues de la boda y guardarlo en la nevera para el primer aniversario, que se le agrega, vino o ron y que cantidad. Te agradezco cualquier guia que me puedas dar al respecto.”

The question was how to make the black cake or bizcocho recipe from Colombia, and how to preserve it until the couple can enjoy it a year later for the first anniversary.We already have the recipe, now to the preservation of the cake. Simply follow these 3 steps:

  • Tell the staff that right after cutting the cake you need a piece placed in a plastic container that sucks the air out. Bringing your own is the best.
  • Once at home take it out of the plastic container and wrap the cake in plastic wrapping paper.
  • Wrap the cake in tin foil tightly.
  • Place the cake in a plastic container for the freezer.
  • If you can, use a vacuum seal food storage bag that takes all the air out avoiding freezer burn to the max! Forget wrapping the cake in the first plastic sheet above, just use the tin foil.
  • When ready to eat it in your first anniversary, take it 2 days in advance in the refrigerator.This worked for me and for many others who want to enjoy their wedding bizcocho recipe in their first anniversary. If you baked this black cake let me know how it comes out!

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